I have been beaten.
I have been broken.
I have been hurt by men.
Still I say this below…with utmost certainty…
Before you dive into this post….
I will tell you a tiny story…It is actually one of my experiences. Back in my city it rains torrents during Winter. One day, during the midst of a storm, something happened to me which altered my mindset.
On that dark and bitterly cold day, I was forced to visit the local shopping mall for some errand that just had to be done. As I was driving, my car hit a huge puddle and came to a dead halt, in the middle of a misty and busy road. Surprised and in a state of panic I tried to restart my car.
Suddenly, there was a knock on my window. I looked up startled and taken aback. Standing outside, rain dripping off his hair, was a really tall man who looked straight into my eyes. I assume that he had been driving beside me. This is probably how he noticed what had just happened with my car.
He stood outside while the wind howled and the rain poured on. I did not know him. Who is he, I wondered and what does he want? What was he trying to say to me? I tried really hard to decipher his gestures before I gave up and rolled down my windows slightly, in order to hear what he was trying to say to me.
He motioned for me to release my hand-brakes. He then shouted so I could hear him above the sound of the howling wind and downpour of rain: “Let me get you safely off the road. I am going to push your car there, he said as he pointed to the mall.
This man, this complete stranger who knew nothing about me, got out of his car on an icy cold rainy day, to push my car into the parking lot of the mall. He did not want another car to knock me from behind and cause a huge accident. While I sat in my warm car, he got out of his car and did this for a woman he did not even know.
While there are a million bad men raping, killing torturing, beating and breaking woman on a daily basis, there are a lot more good men out there! Do NOT forget this, ladies!
Yes, you heard right. I said it with my own mouth. I repeat…. There are good and decent men out there who are extraordinary!
No, I am not on high from smoking weed!
Yes, I know what I am speaking about!
Every day you hear about men who beat the daylights out of women. Every twenty six seconds a woman is raped in South Africa. That’s correct! You heard right…every twenty six seconds!
Yet, here I am still standing up and saying this out of respect for that percentage of good men out there who raise the bar within society.
You don’t always hear about the good guys! They don’t always get the credit for their good deeds. These men…. they treat their woman-folk with silk woven gloves. They will love you, protect you, nurture you, grow you, push you, and never forsake you. They exist out there. I can honestly say they do!
For starters my father and brothers are good and decent. I can also produce a long list of names of many decent men. There are some who would sacrifice their lives in order to protect their woman.
If what I related to you above, is not chivalry, I don’t know what is. Recently a friend of mine became really ill and bed-ridden. Her husband left his high flying and high paying job to stay at home and take care of his wife. He could have hired a maid or a carer. He didn’t. He chose to take care of her with his very own hands. It gave him pleasure to be by his wife’s side and be the one she could depend on.
There are many loyal men. They are the superhero’s of society. They are unrelenting in their pursuit of love, kindness and mercy. They know their duties and its obvious that they were raised well. Some of these men will go all out to assist you if you need help. These men they fear their creator. They don’t shy away from their duties no matter what happens.
Its heartbreaking though, that they have to pay the price, for those men who create havoc within society. Honorable men are sometimes looked down upon because of other rotten apples.
Often we as women, we are so weary here in S.Africa, that we actually look at every man with accusing eyes that scream RAPIST!
So..ladies, let me say this and I want you to hear this and save it in your hard drive. If I could shout it out from rooftops I would say it. While really bad men, and I mean lunatics and sociopaths, they exist. The creeps of society, yeah they are out there. However, don’t rule out each and every single guy and categorize him as “BAD”
Do you know how many men are actually beaten by women? Do you know that they are too embarrassed to come forward and speak about it? Men are also abused on a daily basis by women. Emotional and physical abuse by women against good men is not rare. For this type of women, I have no names. I don’t even know what to call them. Such women who abuse the good and decent guys out there. They are absolutely despicable.
So ….before you go all out blaming every single man, and calling him names, just know this:
Good and decent men do exist. Just because your experiences lead you to rotten, ugly hearted beasts, it does not mean that all men are the same. This article is dedicated to every man who respects all women, regardless of who she is, where she came from and what she has done. It’s for those men who go all out to bring safety and comfort to each and every woman out there.
This blog was written for the superhero’s of society. If you have never raised your hand on a woman, defamed her, humiliated her, hurt her, forced yourself upon her, made fun of her or cheated on her. You are a real man. If you work hard, you remain loyal, you do not lie, cheat or abuse woman in any way then I salute you! Hats off to you!
Keep being the great guy that you are. Upon careful scrutiny, you will find that there are dozens and hundreds and thousands of women who actually truly do appreciate good men!
To the good guys reading this…
Thank you for being a real man and a perfect gentleman.
This one is for you. Dude, you rock!
Ladies, please share this for all those good guys out there to see!
Do you have a story to tell about chivalry?
Any of you experience unexpected kindness by a gentleman lately?
I would love to read about it!
Comments are open for your response…