15 Fail Proof Ways To Kick Depression Out Of Your Life
A Diagnoses Is Not A Life Sentence
A few years ago, after a heart-wrenching experience, I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder and anxiety. It took me one year to get my groove back and release myself from the icy cold grip of depression and anxiety.
Crying for days on end, not being able to get out of bed all in the quiet while hiding my feelings from loved ones with a smile plastered on my face, was the norm for me. Realizing that it was not going to be easy to get out of this miserable state, all on my own, I decided to get some help from a trusted therapist.
Because of Fibromyalgia I often suffered from sleepless nights. My G.P suggested the combined use of some sleep aids as well as anti-depressants. At first, I was highly reluctant. I will admit that I hate drugs of any sort. Whether it is prescribed by a doctor and really required or not. Swallowing tablets each day, to me is a tedious task. It’s not the bitter pills that get to me but the side-affects which I find to be tricky and challenging.
Short Term Happiness
My G.P suggested a certain medication which I finally decided to try. At first, I was thrilled because it made me lose some weight and seemed to suppress my appetite. After a short while, the affects started to weigh me down. It took three weeks for me to get out of the zombie-like state I was in. Three weeks later, after the initial phase, some of the short-term side-affects were wearing off. I was feeling much better, but my weight started to pick up steadily among two other side-affects, particularly insomnia. I was so sleep deprived that I went as far as seven days with as little as five hours of sleep for the entire week.
Strong Resolve To Overcome Depression
I continued taking the medication for about six months. My fibromyalgia at that point had escalated and I suffered from carpel tunnel syndrome and severe pain in my hands, feet and back. Stress and heartbreak was tearing me apart. Although I resumed working I was still not entirely back to my normal cheerful, bubbly self. My doctor suggested that I try another anti-depressant which I declined. After the sixth month of continuous use, I decided to wean myself off the current anti-depressant I was on and the sleep aid. I was determined to fight depression and anxiety all on my own with the help of the Almighty.
It took me another 2 months to get off the medication completely. I had nights and days of severe anxiety which returned with twice the kick and bite. I started crying again every single day for the next two months until one day, just like that the anxiety, the pain, heartache, hopelessness and the anger, all disappeared. Just like that, within a short period of time, I was now able to breathe and live again, not just exist, but actually start living and feeling much better than I had felt ever before.
If you wondering what I did to get to this point I am going to tell you, and then after that, I am going to leave it to you to decide how you are going to win your battle against depression and anxiety.
The first thing I did was to alter my mindset. I stopped with the victim mentality and started with the warrior mindset. I went to war with my demons. I exorcised them by reminding myself of all the blessings which I have, to be grateful for. I repeatedly told myself that no matter what I do, my fate has been ordained by the Almighty. I cannot fight against my destiny.
Certain experiences were meant to happen due to the poor choices which I had made. Also, If the Almighty did not want to deliver me from my trial, there is nothing that could change that. So, I prayed and prayed till the Almighty took notice and gave me the strength to fight for my life with everything I had. I felt like I had to stay stuck in a crazy situation that I did not ask for. I had some major decisions ahead of me and a choice to make. I chose to fight against my depression and my own mind.
So… I decided to do damage control to correct certain things in my life which took me away from who I really am. While there were still many answers which were missing, at some point I figured that I had to make a tough call and cop out of a sad situation. Let me tell you this, my decision angered many people. Still, I remained strong in my resolve to do everything in my life in the way Allah swt would be pleased with me. Still, I did not get my answers nor closure. There were days in which I felt like I would not make it.
I almost gave up my resolve and wanted to take my decision back. I came so close to doing this and then it took a major occurrence that opened my eyes to the reality of the situation. I felt very alone in this decision because everyone was upset with me including family members. I had to stand tall and be my own support, give myself courage and strength. There were two people who stuck by me through this ordeal and I will never forget those people for as long as I breathe.
Listed below are some of the ways in which I re-built my self-esteem and picked myself up. I got out from the deepest pit of darkness. I did it all on my own, and so can you!
Best Morning Routine Ever!
- No matter how difficult it may be, no matter what your experience the night before, wake up early in the morning. An hour before sunrise is perfect. Don’t allow yourself a lie in or a few minutes extra. When your eyes open, be thankful to the Almighty. Thank him immediately upon opening your eyes. Practice sincere gratitude for every single blessing which you have no matter how small it may seem.
- Pray! Pray! Pray your 5 daily salaah! (FOR MUSLIMS) Tahajjud salah and reciting the holy Quraan each morning. meditation and reflection assisted me with dispelling my fears, worries and anxiety. I prayed as if I was talking to my trusted friend. Thereafter, I left everything entirely in the hands of the Almighty.
- I constantly ask the Almighty for forgiveness in the form of (chants) adhkaar. I also recite specific gratitude prayers along with the prayer for serenity and patience.
- Make your own bed before you leave your bedroom. Have a healthy breakfast. Begin working out an hour after you have eaten or immediately after your prayers and meditation. Exercise is essential for the cure of depression and anxiety. Even 15 minutes a day of high intensity exercise is sufficient for the start. Start small if you must but get your heart rate going.
- Neaten your own space and declutter your living areas.
- Write a list of things you wish to achieve for the day. Its vital to journal your weekly, monthly and yearly goals and plans. When you do this, you are actually putting out your wishes and intentions to the universe.
- Meditate and do breathing exercises for stress release. This assists with anxiety. As you breathe in through your nose, recite ta-awwuz and tasmiya and put your hand on your tummy, then release your breathe, through your mouth. Imagine yourself in a place that brings you joy. Picture it as if you are there. Reflect on your inner thoughts and release all negativity.
- If you are a Muslim and you are listening to Music. Stop! Certain songs have harmful effects on your mind through the words, especially when you are depressed.
- Instead play ruqya and listen to the recitation of the holy Quraan. Contrary to what many believe Ruqya is not just a treatment for the harmful affects of jinn, but also a means to overcome depression and anxiety.
- Use essential oils within your home. Sage leaves are excellent to burn and remove bad energy such as anxiety. Also use bukhoor and lobaan in your house. The smell is calming and excellent for depression as well. It clears bad energy.
- Plan your meals so that you have healthy foods on hand, whenever you are stressed. Maintain a healthy diet free from processed foods and drink loads of water
- Learn to not take things personally. Let things go. Keep your soul decluttered from thoughts that weigh you down. Think positively and in this way, you will attract positive experiences to your life. If there are toxic people surrounding you, let go of them and learn to disengage your mind and desensitize yourself to them
- Invest in regular massages, cupping and therapy if you must. Find a trusted therapist who will be able to practice cognitive behavior therapy with you in order to teach you specific skills. These skills will assist with stress management.
- Stop comparing your life to that of other’s. If social media is making you greedy and ungrateful, its best you keep your distance and find other ways to stimulate your mind. Develop new and meaningful hobbies which you are passionate about. Make new friends. Do not Isolate yourself. Spend your time outdoors and get some sunshine by enjoying nature.
- Lighten up and laugh. Smile more often than you frown. Go out and do charity work. It brings immense satisfaction and also creates gratitude in your heart. You don’t need to have money to do charity work. Volunteer your time with causes which are dear to your heart.
There is stigma attached to seeking therapy for depression and speaking about mental health. You should not allow uninformed opinions to sway you from seeking help for a condition that many people experience at some point in their lives. Its normal to have moments of sadness and even become depressed over life altering experiences.
However, dwelling in the past and staying depressed for a long time, is not okay. If you are in such a situation you must motivate yourself by making an active decision to take charge of your life. Infuse life into your own life. Don’t just breathe, start living again. Only you can help yourself and heal yourself! Have you suffered from depression lately? Are there remedies which you would like to share with us. I would love to hear your views and positive stories about how you conquered depression. Feel free to leave your comments. I promise to respond timeously.